I Hope You Dance! (W8)

Repost from 12. November 2019.

Here’s what I wrote during my first year in the Master Key Experience, Week 8:

I keep saying that “this is the best week” of the Master Key Experience.

Well, what can I do after Sunday’s webinar but repeat myself? And then… reading Lesson 8 of the Master Key System. Oh, my friggin’ goodness! This IS the best week!

“The law of attraction will certainly and unerringly bring to you the conditions, environment, and experiences in life, corresponding with your habitual, characteristic, predominant mental attitude. Not what you think once in a while (…) BUT your predominant mental attitude is what counts.” (Haanel, 8.18)

Let me repeat that:

Your predominant mental attitude is what counts.

And – you get to choose your own mental attitude, as we have found out by DOING the exercises from the previous weeks of this mental attitude-altering, life-altering course!

Therefore, my dear fellow students, please allow me to present this song as a gift for you. The lyrics are in the video:

I HOPE YOU DANCE!

I really hope you will.
Promise me you will!
‘Cos I know that you always keep your promises.

With Love,
Bibi

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Fast Forward to 2020:

Now that I look back at my blog posts from last year, I am reminded of all the positive changes in my own mental attitude -and it happened in just a matter of weeks. Multiple years of therapy in the past had not helped me much (not permanently anyway), but this course made all the difference – and it happened FAST! No wonder I want everyone in the whole world to take this course!

I know that this course, or experience, is different for everyone. What one individual gets out of this course is different from everyone else, our goals are also very different, and whether you reach those goals depends on a few factors: The amount of mental luggage (aka cement) when joining this course is, perhaps, one – our willingness to be brutally honest with ourselves and stop blaming others is certainly another. Having said that – remember that YOU are perfect the way you are at your point in your own journey! Perfectly perfect, perhaps not complete. Be kind to yourself. Love yourself for who you are and where you are right now.

I know that I have a long journey ahead of me still before I truly am, 100 % of the time, the person I intend to become. But I also know that I CAN be that person when I continue to be persistent with a clear ideal as my goal. Without a goal, how else will I know which path to choose when I come to a fork in the road? Every single choice I make is at a fork in the road. Whether it’s a choice in what I think, feel, say, or do – it is nothing more than a choice between one path or the other. I can choose the path that leads to my ideal goal, or I can choose to take a detour down a different path…. It is always a choice.

I do not ALWAYS choose the path that leads to my ideal goal, but I am getting better at it. When my first year at the Master Key Experience ended in March 2020, I kept doing the mental exerises every single day, and I still do, because I know first hand that they WORK. One step at a time, one minor change at a time, the compounding effect will get me where I want to be – and to WHO I want to be.

Why do you think Mark & Davene, who have been teaching this course for a decade, still do the very same exercises they teach their students?

“For when an act becomes easy through constant repetition it becomes a pleasure to perform, and if it is a pleasure to perform it is man’s nature to perform it often. When I perform it often, it becomes a habit and I become its slave and since it is a good habit, this is my will.” (from Scroll I, The Greatest Salesman in the World)

The mental exercises we learn is this course can be compared to building muscles – once you have’em, you can’t stop exercising and expect the muscles to stay strong, let alone expect them to grow…

So I keep going to the gym. The mind gym, that is. It’s not “just exercises” anymore- it’s a way of life. It’s a way of being. Just like ALL habits are, good and bad alike. Choose good habits and the bad ones vanish. It’s that simple. Persistent Practise Prouduces Perfect Presentations.

Here are some other fine folks who keep going to the mind gym:

Ian: https://ianmacolive.wordpress.com/blog
Vi: https://masterkey803017729.wordpress.com/blog
Breege: https://happytohelpyougrow.com
Laura: https://livingtoyourownbeat.com/blog
Dan: https://thedanwardexperience.com/blog
Angelica: https://angelicabudarick.wordpress.com
Kevin: https://kevinmasterkey.wordpress.com/blog
Karin: https://karinmyjourney.wordpress.com/blog
Stacy: https://stayban.wordpress.com
Urd: https://thepowerrace.wordpress.com/blog
Melina: https://minaskreativa.blogspot.com/p/my-master-key-experience.html

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I wish you a wonder-fun day 🙂

Love from Bibi (MKE Guide)

W6 – I’m in Shape!

Here’s what I wrote for week 6 in my first year through the Master Key Experience:

Jokingly, I have always said, “I’m in shape. Round is a shape!”

But that’s not the kind of shape I’m talking about. I am surrounded by shapes of blue rectangles, red circles, green triangles, and yellow squares – all over the house, in my car, on the outside of my MKE ring binders, yup, all over the place. And I’m lovin’ it!

My darling made the shapes out of wood for me.

After the webinar on Sunday night, I stayed up till the wee morning hours to fill in my two PPNs and two main SMART goals inside the shapes. I also found some photos I wanted to include on my “Movie Poster” aka Dreamboard. It felt great finding those photos, I was living my dream and visualising it. I FELT it!!

After making my Movie Poster, I printed out a few A4 sized ones to keep in my MKE ring binders and hung up a few at strategic places around the house, one is also glued to the back of my written DMP. I printed out a couple of index card sized Movie Poster as well – one is now a bookmark in the Greatest Salesman in the World (so I see it at least 3 x daily), the other one is in my pencil case (where the blue, red, green and yellow markers are), and I’m using a photo of my Movie Poster as the background on my PC screen and mobile phone.

Another thing I loved about this week’s webinar was the part about seeing our future self as our very best friend! YESSSS! Love that! This previous procrastinator NEEDED to hear that!! I’m done expecting my future self to clean up after my present self!


I have changed so much already, compared to where I was when we started 6 weeks ago. If you read my Week 1 blog post, you know that I was not at a good place when I joined this course… but now? Holy macaroni, I’m so exited and happy! I also have an optimism about my future that I have never been even remotely close to having before.

Sure, I still fall now and then – but I get back up! Sometimes I’m worried that there was an assignment or exercise I forgot or that there was something I misunderstood, but I remind myself that it’s all good …. and that a relaxed mind is vital, no, crucial! Take a deep breath … and repeat: PEACE be the journey

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Fast forward to 2020:


Every since I heard Davene talk about how she put palmtrees around her and Mark’s flat to bring their DMP to life, I have filled my house with “my DMP in 3D” – such as donkey figurines to remind me of my farm haven for donkeys and other animals, my tea cup has a donkey on it, I’ve bought clothes with donkey prints, I have photos on the wall and fridge of the four donkeys I adopted via The Donkey Sanctuary, and I’ve met several donkeys in person as well, AND – last week I got a donkey tattoo on my arm! 😀 (I already have a tattoo of the compass and shapes on the other).

Yesterday I made a book cover to bring one of my children’s book to life, printed it out and glued it onto a book so it looks real:

I had to make the cover a little taller than my design to fit on the book

Seeing my book cover on an actual book feels fantastic!! I have placed it standing up so I see it when I’m working on my books. I’m illustrating my children’s books with my own drawings, but I won’t show anyone these illustrations until the books are published – the first one before August 2021. For the sake of the “DMP in 3D” book cover, I made it by editing some free cliparts. I love playing with Photoshop like this!


In what ways have YOU brought your DMP to life? I’d love to hear in the comments below.

Check out these MKE blogs:

Ian: https://ianmacolive.wordpress.com/blog
Judith: https://judithbarron.wordpress.com/blog
Vi: https://masterkey803017729.wordpress.com/blog
Gerhard: https://masterkeygerhard.wordpress.com
Pardy: https://lifewavepardy.wordpress.com/blog
Breege: https://happytohelpyougrow.com
Laura: https://livingtoyourownbeat.com/blog
Dan: https://thedanwardexperience.com/blog
Kevin: https://kevinmasterkey.wordpress.com/blog
Karin: https://karinmyjourney.wordpress.com/blog
Stacy: https://stayban.wordpress.com
Urd: https://thepowerrace.wordpress.com/blog
Melina: https://minaskreativa.blogspot.com/p/my-master-key-experience.html

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I wish you a wonder-fun day 🙂

Love from Bibi (MKE Guide)

MKE W5 – No Opinion!

How come we humans tend to believe that our opinions are so important? Not only do we believe our opinions are important, we might even believe that we KNOW something – even if our opinion is really just a belief based on nothing other than more beliefs!

It’s Week 5 of the Master Key Experience and one of the exercises presented to our new members is to not have an opinion. On anything, unless you are an expert on the matter AND you are asked for your opinion. Otherwise, NO OPINION.

Period.

Give it a try and see how many seconds YOU can go without having an opinion… Don’t worry – practise makes perfect.

A Matter Of Perspective


I’d like to share a situation from my own 1st year through the Master Key Experience. Some friends and I were having a meal together when one of them asked us about our opinion on something that had been on the news, which I had not seen because I do not watch the news (most people get very opinionated when I say that, by the way). I said I knew nothing about it, why it happened, and what the consequences might or might not be. “Oh, but surely you must have an opinion!”, my friend said (his voice was raised by now). I stood my ground and told him that I wouldn’t have an opinion about something I knew zero about.

To my surprise, my friend got very upset with me, so I asked him why my opinion mattered so much. “Because you must take a stand!”, he exclaimed. When I asked him the importance of me taking a stand, he said it was in order for me to know how to vote next time… So I asked, “How come all those people who do watch the news and form an opinion and take a stand vote so differently? How come they don’t all vote the same as you?”

The look on my friend’s face sealed the end of that discussion.

Check out this video: Everything is a Remix, which explains how all our opinions are made.

Have a good, non-opinionated life everyone!

Check out these MKE blogs:
Karin: https://karinmyjourney.wordpress.com/blog
Stacy: https://stayban.wordpress.com
Dan: https://thedanwardexperience.com/blog
Kevin: https://kevinmasterkey.wordpress.com/blog
Ian: https://ianmacolive.wordpress.com/blog
Judith: https://judithbarron.wordpress.com/blog
Vi: https://masterkey803017729.wordpress.com/blog

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Love from Bibi (MKE Guide)

MKE W2 – I Have Faith!

I’m really glad that I blogged every single week when I first did the Master Key Experience. It’s been very interesting looking at my blog posts from that year, seeing where I was at in my life and how much I struggled in the beginning…. But I paddled through and it was ALL worth it!!

Here’s what I wrote during Week 2 back then, with the headline “I Have Faith!”

I am starting to get a better picture of what it’s all about…. and I have faith that the MKE process works, if I do the work. And I will. I AM!

This week I’m really focused on finding my purpose and desires and I will tweak my written DMP accordingly (Definite Major Purpose). I want to make sure my habits are supportive of those desires – my desires. Not anyone else’s – and not what I’ve previously thought that I “ought to” desire.

My two PPN’s are ‘True Health’ and ‘Recognition for Creative Expression’. The latter need has always been there, on many occasions also fulfilled, whereas True Health isn’t something I have prioritised over the years… and the result is obvious. Suffice it to say that my health NEEDS to be a priority, or I’ll never reach any of my goals…

My mental/emotional health has been in crumbles after I “hit the wall” with a bang one year ago. I am confident that the MKE will not only speed up the mental and emotional healing process, but also be much better (understatement of the year) than anything else I have ever tried in order to overcome the issues that have been a part of my life and held me back for as long as I can remember – such as anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, and what have you …

If my physical and mental health weren’t in such urgent need of improvement, I might have picked a different PPN. (Edit 2020: After reaching my most important health goals within a matter of months I thanked my PPN of ‘True Health’ for helping me get there and then picked a different PPN in its place – namely Autonomy. True Health is happening for me anyway, and I really wanted to embrace my need for Autonomy, and learn to clearly communicate my personal boundaries).

During MKE Week 1, I felt overwhelmed and I had doubts. As I write this, Week 2 has just begun but I feel so much better already! Sure, there is a lot of work and it takes me hours every day. I guess I read and write slowly. But that’s OK – for now I have faith that the MKE can indeed teach me to turn my life around, and I am willing to do the work. It’s the best time-investment I can do!

Here’s a photo of a card I made a few years ago (the text is a rubber stamp). I will keep this quote as a reminder this week: “Always believe that something wonderful is about to happen”. ‘Cos it is! 🙂

I have lots of faith,
and I promise to use it wisely.

I always keep my promises.
Bibi L.

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Fast forward to October 2020:
I am forever grateful for the work that my past self put into her journey with the Master Key Experience. I thank my past self for my current health, my well being, my present life! I’m so proud of what my past self managed to do, and how far she came in a matter of months because she did ALL of the exercises and practised her new habits, every day! My past self was pretty awesome if you ask me, and I should know 😉



Check out these blogs from some brave new MKE students:

Vi: https://masterkey803017729.wordpress.com/blog
Judith: https://judithbarron.wordpress.com/blog
Ian: https://ianmacolive.wordpress.com/blog
Roland: http://vikstrom.com/roland
Karin: https://karinmyjourney.wordpress.com/blog
Stacy: https://stayban.wordpress.com
Dan: https://thedanwardexperience.com/blog

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I wish you a wonder-fun day 🙂

Love fom Bibi (MKE Guide)



W1 B – Looking back on my own first week

I can still remember what it was like to be a first-time student at the Master Key Experience. When reading the blog post I had written during my very first week, it’s also a reminder of how much I have learned and grown since then.

Personal growth is a life-long process. I still have some “stuff” to work on (don’t we all?), but because of the MKE I have found the tools that really do work when I am willing to use them and take charge of my life. No more excuses, no more blaming and pointing fingers at others. My life is MY responsibility. Period! This fact is no longer scary to me, as it was back then. On the contrary – it’s empowering!

This is what I wrote
when I was a new student:

Master Key Experience, Week 1

This record of my journey will and must be honest. I am done pretending to be what I am not, done pretending to be happy and/or excited when I’m not. If I am to chip off all those layers of cement that hides the gold underneath, I must be honest and not pretend that I have chipped off more than I actually have …

So far? About 2 grams worth of cement. Hey, it’s a start!

I am certain that it is indeed possible to get it all off. Gram by gram, till tons of cement have been turned into dust. [Edit: What is the cement I’m referring to? Check out the video in this post]

I am optimistic. I have done my homework every day, and I have particularly enjoyed reading Scroll 1 in The Greatest Salesman in the World. As for Haanel’s Master Key System, Part One … there are things I don’t understand how can be, things I do not believe (yet?), but I do read it every day and I am open-minded (I think!). It will all make sense later. Right?

It all feels a bit overwhelming right now; repeatedly reading in a foreign language (I am Norwegian, btw). I have an OK grasp of the English language, but – and I believe this is an important but – working with my own mind in a language that is not my own feels … superficial, I s’pose. Language is such an important part of our identity, and when I communicate in English I really don’t FEEL the words. Having said that, I guess I just have to trust that the words will find a path on their own into my heart, into my core and – yay – into my subconsciousness!

I sent in the 1st draft of my DMP the other day and got a revision back, one which I found most interesting and I trust my guide’s inputs on how to improve my DMP.

I AM grateful to be on this journey. I truly am! I just struggle with a few things, that’s all …

That’s it for now. Thank you for your time.

Keep up the good work, all you golden nuggets out there! ♥

Optimistically yours,
Bibi

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Fast forward to today: Now that I’m a guide at the Master Key Experience, it means that the first week is very different for me than when I was a student – but this is what they have in common: It’s exciting! Receiving the first draft of the new members’ DMP (Definite Major Purpose) and thereby getting a glimpse into their dreams and goals has been wonderful. I take their DMPs very seriously and do my very best to guide them along in the process. Writing a really good DMP might take weeks, even months. During my first year, I refined my own more times than I can even remember – and in the process, I found more gold inside myself, under all that cement! This process cannot be rushed. Give it time …. Give yourself time.

The first week for guides is also busy with a lot of work, and it can feel overwhelming at times. The main difference is what I DO when I’m feeling overwhelmed. The old me would try to escape by watching TV for a few hours. The present me takes a long “SIT” – my place in silence where I relax on a deeper level than ever before. A relaxed mind is crucial and I must take care of my own needs before I can be of any help to others. A relaxed, calm state of mind is the only doorway to progress mentally.

My #1 advice to new students: Relax and trust the process …

I promise to follow my own advice.

Many of our new members have posted their very first blog posts this week!

Here are some – please support them by leaving a comment on their posts:

Vi: https://masterkey803017729.wordpress.com/blog
Judith: https://judithbarron.wordpress.com/blog
Ian: https://ianmacolive.wordpress.com/blog
Roland: http://vikstrom.com/roland
Karin: https://karinmyjourney.wordpress.com/blog
Stacy: https://stayban.wordpress.com
Dan: https://thedanwardexperience.com/blog

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Love fom Bibi


My Secret to Success

My secret to personal success is really no secret at all.  Ask anyone who has achieved their goals, and they’ll tell you the same thing. Best of all? – Anyone can do it. It’s really this simple:

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If you can’t be bothered reading this rather lengthy and personal post, just click to see the online course that changed everything for me!

I said it’s simple, but perhaps not easy. – Many people do not even know what they want! I know what that’s like. In the past, I knew what I didn’t want, but I had no clear goals – I just wanted to avoid pain. I thought a lot about all the things I didn’t want, such as “I don’t want to be sick, I don’t want to be unhappy, anxious, feel worthless….”, and so on.

And it worked! I did get more of what I focused on! So I got sicker, more depressed, more worried, and my confidence had hit rock bottom.

In September 2019, I joined an online-course of six months and since then my focus has been laser-sharp on the outcome I want. Because I have focused on the positive outcome, I can check quite a few boxes already!

Before I show you my list of personal achievements so far, I want to give you an idea of where I was at when I joined this life-altering course in September. The reason I want to tell you is that my story goes to show that what I have learned really works. You see, before I joined the course I had so much anxiety that I didn’t even dare to be alone. I had been on heavy meds for years (for bipolar disorder since 1994 and painkillers since 2005 due to a spinal deformity). I had very little energy and had to sleep for at least two hours during the day, every single day since 2010. I also struggled with memory loss and eventually ended up on disability pension. For the past 4 years, I couldn’t walk more than 10-15 meters without crutches. Sometimes I used a wheelchair to get around. I was in debt, had no confidence that I’d ever work again, I was seriously worried about my future. But let’s not dwell on the past! I have a brand new life, and it keeps getting better!

In no particular order, EXCEPT the first one – which was vital to achieving the rest, here’s what I have achieved since September 2019. And this is only the beginning ……

  • I’m happy – every day!
  • I’ve found my life purpose.
  • I know how to reach my goals.
  • I’ve lost weight.
  • Quit smoking.
  • Painfree spine.
  • Quit taking meds and painkillers *
  • I can walk 100 times further!!
  • And I dance every day 🙂 
  • I feel confident.
  • Made friends, found my tribe.
  • Spiritual awakening.

* I want to stress that I did wean off the anti bipolar meds with support of my physician and that I did not quit overnight. The side effects to quitting cold turkey can be quite severe. I ticked all the boxes with symptoms before, but I no longer have those ups (mania) and downs (depressions). I feel perfectly “normal” (for lack of a better word) and that’s all that matters to me 🙂

Would none of the achievements above have happened anyway without me taking the online course? Well, without it I seriously doubt that I would have gotten anywhere – I’d most likely continue attracting all the things I did not want, as before.

More than anything, I know that I have found the real key to personal success. I have found my true purpose (to write inspirational books to help others) and I keep doing the work that I know brings out the results I want, all in due time. I know I tend to be impatient; I want results “yesterday” … but I also know that a relaxed mind and a positive mental attitude, backed up by a burning desire will get me there. I’ve come so far already, and I am persistent! (Which in itself is pretty huge for a former procrastinator and worrywart …..)

If you want to improve one or more areas of your life, check this out: tinyurl.com/HeroCourse

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I wish you a wonder-fun day 🙂

Love from Bibi

Free Will? Think Again!

Who do you think calls the shots? All your decisions are first made in the subconscious mind. Believe you have free will? Let’s see how that works …

Graphic by Bibi, using a royalty-free image from Pixabay.

In a single second, the conscious mind can process 40 frames of information.
In that same second, the subconscious mind processes 1.2 million frames of information.

Who’s really running the show? The subconscious mind drives our decision-making and the fraction of the human brain we call the conscious mind, does very little but rationalise our decisions and convince ourselves that we’ve made the right one.

Graphic by Bibi, using a royalty-free image from Pixabay

Brain Scanners Can See Your Decisions Before You Make Them

More than 20 years ago, brain scientist Benjamin Libet found a brain signal that occurred in the brain before a conscious decision was made. Many scientists argued that if our decisions are prepared unconsciously by the brain, then our feeling of “free will” must be an illusion.

Believing that you are in charge of your own mind is much like a turtle sitting on the back of a speeding leopard, thinking it – the turtle – can run that fast!

OK, so that was the bad news.

The good news is that you CAN train your subconscious to make SURE it makes the decisions you want.

How? Elementary, my dear Dr Watson. By changing your habits.

The subconscious mind runs on autopilot. We repeat the same kind of thoughts and behaviours every single day for years on end, because the subconscious mind tells you to. It’s a habit.

It’s a habit to feel either happy or miserable. It’s a habit to munch on crappy food and it’s a habit to eat healthy. It’s a habit to think worst case scenario and it’s a habit to be optimistic and solution oriented. The list goes on.

So, what do you want? To think happier thoughts, perhaps? To stop procrastonating, maybe? Or maybe you want to loose weight, stop smoking, get rid of fear and anxiety once and for all, and simply FEEL better about yourself? What do you WANT for your own life?

If you really want to change your life, you first have to change your mind – your subconscious mind!

My life was going fast downhill and I was crippled with anxiety and panic attacks. I’m a survivor because I changed my mind. Now that I know what works, I want to help others who struggle. That’s why I recommend this course. ‘Cos it WORKS!

This is the course that turned my life around in a matter of weeks. Now it’s your turn.

Course runs only once a year. First class is on the 27th of September. Check it out while there is still time to join.


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Follow me on Twitter: @bibilindahl

I wish you a wonder-fun day! ♥

Love from Bibi

Take Charge of Your Time!

Where do you see yourself in 6 months from now? What, if anything, are you doing to make sure you are in a better place than you are right now?

If you don’t have the time to do it right, when will you have the time to do it over?

The #1 excuse people use for not improving their lives is that they don’t have the time. Guess what? Time is going to pass anyway, whether you DO something to improve your life or not.

There are basically two types of people in the world.

Type 1: People who are always willing to learn, grow and improve themselves.
Type 2: Those who would rather stay put where they are. Even if they’re miserable, at least it feels safe (because it’s familiar).

If you prefer to spend the next six months watching time pass by, this course is not for you: tinyurl.com/HeroCourse
This course is for people who want to improve their lives. It’s NOT for sissies. Doing this course is going to take AT LEAST one hour of your prescious time, each day for 26 weeks (starting Sept. 27th, 2020).

The course is scholarship based with limited spots.


Before I joined this course last fall, I was a nervous wreck. Totally worn out from struggling with anxiety, panic attacks, and depressions, I didn’t think I had the energy to work on myself for the Nth time…. I seriously doubted that I was even “fixable”, and I didn’t think I was ready to give it a shot to find out. Luckily, it turned out that I was wrong. I was ready. I was RIPE!

And now, one year later? At age 53, I have finally discovered my inner strength and my own value. I am happy – not just now and then, but as a natural “mood default”. But hey, I’m human – I have ALL the emotions like anyone else, the difference for me – compared to how I was before – is that I don’t stay down/upset/angry/hurt and what have you, and I no longer dwell on the past for hours on end, nor do I worry myself sick about the future. If I fall, and I do, I get back up. I feel a lot more confident, and I know what my purpose is and what my passions are. And – I have found my tribe with kind and compassionate people, and made friends with such wonderful and supportive individuals from many countries.

Full disclosure: After having done the 6 months course as a regular student, I was invited to train with the staff to become a Certified Guide for new students… and I have just passed my exam with flying colours! Hence, I am affiliated with this course. It’s the best thing I have ever done for myself, and now I want to help others who are willing to put in the effort. I don’t charge anyone to be their guide – it’s just something I do because I really want to help others.

You’ll never have to feel lonesome in this class. You get hands-on help from a Certified Guide and you’ll meet people like yourself who are curious, willing to grow and improve.

Find out what it’s all about: tinyurl.com/HeroCourse

Be a hero in YOUR life! You can do this.

This course is only taught once a year. It’s scholarship based with limited spots. Giddy up!

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I wish you a wonder-fun day 🙂

Love from Bibi



Don’t Poke my Comfy Zone!

For many years, my main goal was to protect my Comfort Zone 

– or my Comfy Dome, as I called it.

I had created a safe place for myself, and hearing that ‘learning happens outside of your comfort zone’ rubbed me in all kinds of wrong directions. I could learn just fine inside my Comfy Dome!

And I was right. You can learn things inside your comfort zone. 

And I was wrong. There is a limit to how much you can learn if you stay within the boundaries of your comfort zone … 

………………………………….. and I claimed that was okay with that.

……… but you know that it was my fear talking, right?

This is how I imagined my “comfy dome” – a safe haven for me to live and be happy. Everything was just fine

Image made by me, combining graphics from Pixabay

Just fine??

I had been telling myself that lie for so long, I believed it. Hey, I liked being comfortable!  Who doesn’t?

But how comfortable could I actually be when I was scared shitless of everything outside my own little “Comfy Dome”?? It was indeed little. The world outside of my dome was the scariest place I could imagine:

Image made by me, combining graphics from Pixabay

Did you hear what I just said? “The scariest place I could imagine.”. Imagine being the key word!

The scary place was inside me, not out there!!! In my mind I had created so much fear that it held me back from living an amazing life. I was a prisoner of my own mind.

“Fear is a powerful form of thought. It paralyzes the nerve centers, thus affecting the circulation of the blood. This, in turn, paralyzes the muscular system, so that fear affects the entire being, body, brain and nerve, physical, mental, and muscular.”

– Charles Haanel

I know the above statement is true; I ended up being physically ill. I was not only trapped in my own mind but in my own body … all because of fear. Fear that I had created with my own thoughts. I didn’t know any better.

But then …

I joined a self-discovery course back in the fall of 2019 – somewhat reluctantly, I admit, full of anxiety and scepticism as I was at the time. But I will be forever grateful to have learned at that course that we can expand our Comfort Zone and that we can do it an inch at a time – by gently nudging it, not leaping off the side of the edge. (Been there, done that! Only to fall flat on my nose. I felt like I had taken seven steps forward, then 10 back!!)

I made this image to illustrate the different zones:

 

The comfort zone is where your day-to-day, routine work happens – where you’re on auto-pilot. There are no surprises, you are confident in what you do. Most of us need some days in the comfort zone. Some learning and innovation can take place in this zone, but if you stay there for too long you might get bored and lack motivation.

The learning zone – aka the stretch zone lies just outside of your comfort zone. When you stretch it a little and then go back to your comfort zone, you can reflect and apply what you learned – this is growth.

The panic zone – aka stress zone. By trying to control your stress and/or anxiety, you are drained from energy and very little of any learning takes place. We may have to enter this zone to deal with an emergency, but staying in the stress zone for long can be harmful to our health. 

A Helpful Question

I have asked myself a question that has proven to be very helpful, which is:
“What would the person I intend to become do next?”

I ask myself that question in many different situations throughout the day, but let’s leave that for another post. When I ask myself that question regarding the comfort zone, this is my answer: She continues to gently nudge and nudge until her comfort zone has expanded a bit. Then she nudges it again, and again. She is courageous! She is curious to see what she can accomplish! She also wants to find out how she can be helpful to others when she continues to nudge that edge, gently, respectfully, with self-compassion.

Because of this exercise, I am now free from my previous “Comfy Dome” once and for all and I have replaced it with an actual Comfort Zone, where I relax and apply what I am learning. Then I do it all over again, nudge the edge and expand, go back and apply new knowledge.

I am now enjoying the journey called life, like the true hero that I am.

When in doubt, ask yourself this question: What would the person I intend to become do next? You might be surprised when you hear the answer…

The amazing self-discovery course is now open to new students, and you can find it here: tinyurl.com/HeroCourse

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The Hero’s Journey Explained

How to use the Hero’s Journey in your own life.

This documentary, featuring Deepak Chopra, Robin Sharma, Rashida Jones, Sir Ken Robinson, is about Joseph Campbell and the Hero’s Journey. Give it a few minutes and see what you think. (Watch the video down below).

In narratology and comparative mythology, the hero’s journey (aka monomyth) is the common template of stories that involve a hero who goes on an adventure, is victorious in a decisive crisis, and comes home changed or transformed.

Numerous literary works of popular fiction have been identified as examples of the Hero’s Journey template, including Star Wars, Moby Dick, Jane Eyre, and works by Charles Dickens, William Faulkner, Hemingway, Twain, C. S. Lewis, Tolkien, and Stephen King, just to name a few.

 

 

Last fall, I joined an online course to learn more about the Hero’s Journey and how to use it – not only as a writer (I do use Campbell’s formula for WIP novel), but also to find out how I could be a hero in my own life. The course was amazing!! I have recommended it to everyone I know and a few friends have signed up already. The course is offered only once a year and the next one starts on the 27th of September.

Would you like to learn more about the Hero’s Journey and the gold within you? Check out this class: tinyurl.com/HeroCourse
You’ll get to see the first video in a series of three right away after leaving your email address at the first page. (You can of course unsub at any time)
Scholarship based course, limited spots.


Check out the course here: tinyurl.com/HeroCourse

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