I Don’t Know Why You Say “Goodbye”, I say “Hello!”

As the song by The Beatles suggests, this is not me saying ‘goodbye’ – even if you are about to read my last blog post in English. No worries, I’ll explain further down. I have a lot I want to say, so grab a cuppa and stay for a while…

It’s been a few weeks since I posted anything. You may have heard me mention that I’ve been having some issues with my right hand for the past year. I finally had a surgery last month – only to make it worse. Typing with my non-dominant hand takes forever, so blogging (and being active on social media) has obviously not been a priority. I had a new surgery last week (same hand, different surgeon). I’m optimistic, but it’s still too early to know whether it worked this time.

I’m fine otherwise. Better than fine! The way I see it, pain is inevitable – whether it’s physical or emotional pain – but suffering is a choice. Pain is bad enough, I don’t have to suffer on top. Self-pity is suffering, worrying about the outcome is suffering, being sad or angry or frustrated because this or that happened is suffering. Whenever you argue with reality, you are suffering. I don’t have to go there – it’s just my hand and I am so much more than my hand. LIFE is much more than just a hand! I choose to stay joyous and grateful, optimistic and playful 🙂

Change Your Default Setting

Being joyous and grateful, optimistic and playful is my emotional home – my default state of mind, no matter the circumstances. I can still get sad, annoyed, angry and what have you – I’d wonder about my own sanity if I didn’t – but it’s rare and I won’t stay there for long before I bounce back to my emotional home. This ‘default state of mind’ is like a magnet that either pulls us back up or back down. You can think of it as your inner thermostat that will kick in and make it either cooler or warmer whenever your emotions differ from your default setting.

Your default emotions are nothing more than a habit and your thermostat setting is NOT permanent. In order to change the inner thermostat so your default is “warmer” (positive emotions), all you have to do is practice by feeling the emotions you prefer as often as you can.

Raise your standards of how you want to feel and practice: If you want to feel happier more often, you can listen to uplifting music and dance 3-5 times a day and you’ll soon notice that your inner default setting wants to go there. If you want to feel calm and peaceful, you can learn how to breathe properly and meditate daily. If you want to feel good, BE good.

If you want to feel more fear, anger or sadness, all you have to do is dwell on pain – no matter if it’s pain from your past or present circumstances or anticipated future pain (aka worry), you can even dwell on other people’s pain – just make sure you suffer long enough to make it your default setting. You know what I’m talking about, we’ve all done it. There’s nothing wrong with you if you have – it’s a very common human pattern of behaviour (aka habit). You also know what you have to do in order to break out of that pattern. Knowledge alone isn’t enough, you must apply it by doing it. You need to be doing things differently in order to get a different result. So put on that music and dance!

I’d like to add that we have other inner thermostat settings as well: Your financial thermostat determines how comfortable you are earning more or saving money. Your body weight thermostat will make you do silly things to gain weight if you lost it on purpose. Your relationship thermostat can make you say and do things that hurts your partner if things are going too well (compared to what you’re used to). Many will find their home being messy again just a few days or weeks after yet another decluttering spree, all because of their inner thermostat settings. Some call this mechanism self-sabotage, the thermosat analogy explains why we self-sabotage.

Your thermostat settings determine what you tolerate, not what you want. Raise your standards and refuse to tolerate less than you want!

Being aware of your own inner thermostats in any area of life is a good place to start. We can’t change what we’re unaware of.

What I Do All Day When I Can’t Even ____ fill in the blanks

My right arm might be temporarily out of order, but there’s nothing wrong with my eyes, ears, mind and spirit – so I’m reading and taking classes and applying the knowledge. I’m wearing my persistent big girl pants (lined with courage and faith) by working on my goals – my clearly defined stepping stones towards my dreams and my mission (aka main purpose), infused with an unwavering certainty in my ability to get the results I want so that my mission can be brought to fruition.

My mission to help others is my “Why” – the inspiration that motivates me to keep learning, applying and growing. My mission gives me enticing reasons to keep going. It’s not just about me and my own growth and happiness, it’s about all those I can help in the future because of the efforts I put in today. My mission makes my daily efforts a MUST.

Learning and applying more knowledge and skills are my stepping stones, my plan of action. First things first. Dream BIG, take small but strategic steps. Don’t be busy, be productive by investing your time and energy on stepping stones that matter – where your efforts make a difference. Enjoy the process and celebrate your progress! You don’t have to work hard if you work smart. Not that there is anything wrong with hard work, but hard work alone won’t necessarily give you the results you want. If you want to go north and you keep going east, your hard work is futile.

“The forces of life are composed of our thoughts and ideals and these in turn are molded into form; our problem is to keep an open mind, to constantly reach out for the new, to recognize opportunity, to be interested in the race rather than the goal, for the pleasure is in the pursuit rather than the possession. Your greatest success will come as you are enabled to assist others. What benefits one must benefit all.” – Charles Haanel

In other words, our fulfillment in life isn’t about what we achieve, but who we become in the pursuit of our goals and how we can contribute as a result.

What steps are you taking to get WHERE you want to go and to become WHO you want to be?

stepping stones on the path forward

A New Chapter in Life

Since I can’t type, I use the mike on my phone to “write” an email to self which I open on my computer, copy and paste the text into Word where I’ll edit it later, when my hand has healed. I’ve written several chapters of my book this way, plus numerous pages for an upcoming projcect.

All the writing I’m currently doing using the “voice to text” method is in my own language, Norwegian. Some of the writing is for my next book and some is content for my new website, which will be in Norwegian only. The domain to my English website, where you are right now, expires on the 30th of April and won’t be renewed.

My new book and website are both part of my contribution, to help others get a better life. I know I can be of more help locally, in my own country and in my native tongue. I have several friends and family members who are not comfortable with the English language, which means there must be many more out there who would prefer if I offered my services in Norwegian – so I will. This is not ‘goodbye, it is ‘hello’. I’m not leaving. I have arrived.

My Last Gift To You (in English) … is YOU!

❤️ When YOU believe in you, others will too.
❤️ Aim to be the best version of yourself, not a mediocre imitation of others.
❤️ Time is precious, use yours wisely. Time will pass whether you do something to improve your life or not. That time we call Life is much more enjoyable when you do what it takes to evolve into the best version of YOU that you deep down want to be.
❤️ Be brave and listen to your heart, that inner voice or gut feeling.
❤️ Find your own rolemodels and learn from them. Make sure they live the kind of life YOU want for yourself. Make sure they are the sort of person you aim to be. Make sure they don’t just talk about it – they must BE about it. If you want to be caring, happy and fulfilled, find rolemodels who are.
❤️ If you need therapy to overcome past traumas, seek help. Talk to your physician, talk to a friend to get recommendations, do something.

You can do it. You are worth it.
YOU are SO worth it!

With Love
from Bibi


PS: Hvis du forstår norsk og vil bli informert når mitt nye nettsted lanseres,
send meg en e-post: bibilindahl@gmail.com

How To Beat the Crap out of Fear

What we Focus on Grows.

The choice is yours. What do you choose to focus on?

Courage Beats the Crap out of Fear

We all know that if you fear an activity, whethyer it’s flying or speaking in public, it takes courage to do it anyway – in spite of fear.

What many people do, myself included, is to focus on the very thing they fear. But if you think about this for a second – how on earth could concentrating on fear create any courage? What’s even worse is when you end up focusing on the fear itself. What we focus on grows, remember?

What would Benjamin do?

Back in January 2019, I tried the so-called ‘Franklin Makeover’ for the first time. In short, you choose a virtue you want more of and focus on it for a whole week. You observe the virtue in others as well as in yourself, and make a note of it every time you see a sign of it. What happens next is almost like magic…

I had chosen ‘courage’ as my virtue…. A couple of days into my ‘courage week’, I started to wonder if it was my former anxious self who had chosen ‘courage’…. I used to need a lot of courage just to get through a normal day.

I realized that I couldn’t even remember the last time I had any signs of anxiety. It had been several months since I needed courage just to leave the house!

And that’s great! Overcoming anxiety is HUGE!!

Now that my new norm was to be living freely without anxiety, I was able to see that life had so much more to offer than just leaving the house without getting a panic attack…

So, if I no longer was afraid of doing “normal”, everyday things – what did I need courage for?

Take Your Pick!

I needed courage to believe in myself and the choices I made.
Heck, I needed courage to make any important decisions of my own…

Once I had, I needed courage to let people know.
I needed courage to stand up for myself.

Maybe you need courage to go after a new job, move to a new place, or to finally write that bestseller book you’ve been talking about!

What do YOU need courage to do? I dare you to be courageous and share in the comments below! 🙂

An Unusual Technique that Works

In order to find many examples of ‘courage’ to focus on for a week, I used a technique that was first described in ‘The Master Key System’, published by Charles Haanel in 1912. The point of his technique (often referred to as the Battleship Exercise) is to visualize something material and trace it back to its origin to find the cause – and we find that it always started with an idea, as a thought.

Since my goal was to observe as much courage as possible during that week, I would look at any item around me – it being a coffee cup, a throw pillow, or a car on the street. I used an “inverse version” of Hansel’s technique, and traced that item through all the steps necessary from idea to finished product, thinking about the courage it took the inventor or designer to see their idea through. That takes courage!

Hot Tip: This inverted ‘Battleship Exercise’ works for almost any virtue. Just imagine what it takes of virtues such as creativity, persistence, decisiveness, cooperation, being well organized, just to name a few, to go from idea to finished product!

The more I focused on courage, the more courage I found myself having. One week of focusing on courage also had ripple effects into the weeks ahead. What we focus on does grow.

I give myself permission to be courageous! ‘Cos, you see, deep down…

This week, I want to link to two courageous bloggers:

Karin: https://karinmyjourney.wordpress.com/blog
Melina: https://minaskreativa.blogspot.com/p/my-master-key-experience.html

Stay tuned for more unusual posts.

Success 101 in Movies

One of our exercises at the Master Key Experience this week (14) was to watch one of the following movies (which are all based on true stories): ‘Mully’, ‘October Sky’, ‘Cool Runnings’, ‘The Good Lie’, ‘Wild’, ‘Door to Door’, ‘Rudy’, while identifying the four habits of success which I wrote about in this blog post.

DMP: Definite Major Purpose (backed by a burning desire)
PMA: Positive Mental Attitude
POA: Plan of Action
MMA: Master Mind Alliance

I watched all the movies and I have chosen to write about the first one I saw, ‘Rudy’ – a movie about the life of Daniel Ruettiger, who dreamt of playing American football at the University of Notre Dame.

First of all I want to recommend this movie to anyone who hasn’t seen it! I was very moved by the story and how Rudy never gave up on his dream, in spite of several obstacles along the way. Very inspirational! It’s available on Netflix, Prime, and even for rent on YouTube.

Spoiler alert! Watch the movie before you read the rest.

Rudy’s definite major purpose (DMP) was clearly to play football, and not just anywhere but at the Notre Dame University. His DMP was backed by a burning desire, even if he didn’t really have the physique (he was quite small for a football player), nor did he have the grades required to get into Notre Dame, nor the money for tuition, nor the support from his family and friends, except his buddy Pete (his first master mind alliance) – who was killed in an accident at their workplace.

It is obvious throughout the movie that Rudy indeed had a Positive Mental Attitude. He did not give up no matter what life threw at him, and he did not listen to those who told him that his dream was not only impossible but even ridiculous! He is not discouraged when he gets rejected by Notre Dame at first, but continues to study to improve his grades.

For Rudy to achieve his DMP, his POA (Plan of Action) is to play football from an early age throughout high school. In order to get into Notre Dame, he needs to save up money (POA) and to improve his grades (POA) he gets enrolled at Holy Cross College with the help from a priest (Rudy’s 2nd master mind alliance). At Holy Cross he befriends teacher assistant D-Bob – Rudy’s 3rd master mind alliance. Rudy is broke and homeless, he approaches the head ground keeper at the Notre Dame stadium who eventually offers him a job (POA) there and also a place to live. The ground keeper turns out to be a former football player and is Rudy’s 4th master mind alliance.

Rudy continues to work on his grades (POA) despite of three letters of rejection from Notre Dame. When he finally gets in, he gets on the team as a practise roster (POA) and never misses a single practise in two years (POA). He keeps giving what is best for the team (POA + Law of Giving), and it finally pays off when he gets to dress for the last game that season. The team is his major master mind alliance – they all want Rudy to dress, and they all want him to play. Had it not been for the master mind alliance of his team, the coach would not have allowed Rudy to play at all, but eventually he does and after the game Rudy is carried out in victory by his team members.

I found it very interesting to watch all these movies with the DMP, PMA, POA, and MMA in mind, and I will continue to do so when I watch other movies.

These four habits of success are methods we are learning and applying at the Master Key Experience, so that we, too, can fulfil our dreams – our Definite Major Purpose – no matter how impossible or ridiculous they might seem to other people.

I certainly have a DMP (definite major purpose) backed by a burning desire, I have a Plan Of Action, a predominant PMA (positive mental attitude), and I have a supportive MMA (master mind alliance) who helps me to stay on track.

Here are some other fine folks who have applied these 4 habits of success:

Karin: https://karinmyjourney.wordpress.com/blog
Stacy: https://stayban.wordpress.com
Melina: https://minaskreativa.blogspot.com/p/my-master-key-experience.html
Breege: https://happytohelpyougrow.com
Laura: https://livingtoyourownbeat.com/blog
Dan: https://thedanwardexperience.com/blog
Angelica: https://angelicabudarick.wordpress.com
Eileen: https://plunkette.wordpress.com/blog
Vi: https://masterkey803017729.wordpress.com/blog

Stay tuned for more unusual posts.

Wishing you all a wonder-fun day!
Love from Bibi (MKE Guide)

The 4 Habits of Success

We don’t have to invent the wheel. For centuries, great minds have done the research for us and they have proved what works. Several books have been written on the topic, the most popluar being ‘Think and Grow Rich’ by Napoleon Hill. The FOUR HABITS he discovered are essential for success in all walks of life, not just financial riches. ALL walks of life.

These 4 habits convert dreams into physical realities.

The Four Habits of Success

  1. A definite major purpose, backed by a earnest and burning desire.
  2. A definite plan, expressed in continuous action.
  3. A predominant positive attitude.
  4. A friendly alliance (aka Mastermind), people who encourage you to follow through with plan and purpose.

Short version:

1. DMP (Definite Major Purpose)
2. PMA (Positive Mental Attitude)
3. POA (Plan of Action)
4. MMA (Master Mind Alliance)

Most people don’t have a clue what their purpose is. The Master Key Experience helps people figure it out. Not only that, but we’re given easy to do mental exercises to make sure we learn how to apply all the 4 habits and live the life of our dreams. Knowledge does not apply itself. You gotta do the work, the mental labour. But it’s worth it.

Oh, boy, is it worth it!!

Here are some other fine folks who build their castles
one brick at a time:

Eileen: https://plunkette.wordpress.com/blog
Ian: https://ianmacolive.wordpress.com/blog
Vi: https://masterkey803017729.wordpress.com/blog
Breege: https://happytohelpyougrow.com
Laura: https://livingtoyourownbeat.com/blog
Dan: https://thedanwardexperience.com/blog
Angelica: https://angelicabudarick.wordpress.com
Kevin: https://kevinmasterkey.wordpress.com/blog
Karin: https://karinmyjourney.wordpress.com/blog
Stacy: https://stayban.wordpress.com
Urd: https://thepowerrace.wordpress.com/blog
Melina: https://minaskreativa.blogspot.com/p/my-master-key-experience.html

Stay tuned for more unusual posts.

Wishing you all a wonder-fun day! 🙂

Love from Bibi (MKE Guide)

Today is My Birthday!

WEEK 10 MKE (Reposted from 4. December 2019)

On the 4th of December 1966, my mother gave birth to a beautiful baby.

This child was such a precious golden nugget! Life was good.
For a while.

Life threw me a few curve balls and the golden child slowly faded away, until you could barely see her inner twinkle…. The gold was still there, though! Just hidden under layers of mud, much of it hard as cement. (The metaphor of the cement and Golden Buddha is explained in one of my previous posts)

Let’s not dwell on the past. Bygones! I have forgiven the “mud-slingers”. They, too, were once a “Golden Buddha” and whatever wrongs they said and did to me were simply due to the mud they were covered by. But underneath all that is the golden nugget of perfection that they used to be … Forgiving is easy when I remind myself of that.

As the weeks go by on this amazing journey with the Master Key Experience, I’m chipping off more and more of that cemented mud covering my own golden nugget.

Today is my birthday and I am celebrating a new life!
A new and GOOD life!

My Definite Major Purpose in life was previously nothing but a dream. Today it is a plan and I have full faith that it will happen the way I think and feel about it, visualise it, and focus on it.

My dream was big, but my plan is HUGE!

Abundance is a natural law of the Universe. The evidence of this law is conclusive; we see it on every hand. Everywhere Nature is lavish, wasteful, extravagant. Nowhere is economy observed in any created thing. Profusion is manifested in everything. The millions and millions of trees and flowers and plants and animals and the vast scheme of reproduction where the process of creating and recreating is forever going on, all indicates the lavishness with which Nature has made provision for man. That there is an abundance for everyone is evident, but that many fail to participate in this abundance is also evident; they have not yet come into a realisation of the Universality of all substance, and that mind is the active principle whereby we are related to the things we desire.

Charles Haanel, Master Key System, 10.1

Today is my birthday and I am deeply grateful to be alive! Today I am celebrating my present life and my future! And I know my future will be WONDERFUL!!

My new affirmation, which I repeat several times a day:

Feel free to use the image above. I added the text to a photo found at Pixabay,
100% royalty free. I’m not affiliated.

Fast forward to 2020:

One year later and it’s still my birthay today, imagine that 😉 I have many reasons to celebrate for things that have happened in the year that has passed, but more than anything I celebrate the fact that I am alive! Every day is a gift and I am a very grateful receiver.

Here are some other fine folks who have reasons to celebrate:

Eileen: https://plunkette.wordpress.com/blog
Ian: https://ianmacolive.wordpress.com/blog
Vi: https://masterkey803017729.wordpress.com/blog
Breege: https://happytohelpyougrow.com
Laura: https://livingtoyourownbeat.com/blog
Dan: https://thedanwardexperience.com/blog
Angelica: https://angelicabudarick.wordpress.com
Kevin: https://kevinmasterkey.wordpress.com/blog
Karin: https://karinmyjourney.wordpress.com/blog
Stacy: https://stayban.wordpress.com
Urd: https://thepowerrace.wordpress.com/blog
Melina: https://minaskreativa.blogspot.com/p/my-master-key-experience.html

Stay tuned for more unusual posts.

Wishing you all a wonder-fun day! 🙂

Love from Bibi (MKE Guide)

I Hope You Dance! (W8)

Repost from 12. November 2019.

Here’s what I wrote during my first year in the Master Key Experience, Week 8:

I keep saying that “this is the best week” of the Master Key Experience.

Well, what can I do after Sunday’s webinar but repeat myself? And then… reading Lesson 8 of the Master Key System. Oh, my friggin’ goodness! This IS the best week!

“The law of attraction will certainly and unerringly bring to you the conditions, environment, and experiences in life, corresponding with your habitual, characteristic, predominant mental attitude. Not what you think once in a while (…) BUT your predominant mental attitude is what counts.” (Haanel, 8.18)

Let me repeat that:

Your predominant mental attitude is what counts.

And – you get to choose your own mental attitude, as we have found out by DOING the exercises from the previous weeks of this mental attitude-altering, life-altering course!

Therefore, my dear fellow students, please allow me to present this song as a gift for you. The lyrics are in the video:


I really hope you will.
Promise me you will!
‘Cos I know that you always keep your promises.

With Love,

♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥

Fast Forward to 2020:

Now that I look back at my blog posts from last year, I am reminded of all the positive changes in my own mental attitude -and it happened in just a matter of weeks. Multiple years of therapy in the past had not helped me much (not permanently anyway), but this course made all the difference – and it happened FAST! No wonder I want everyone in the whole world to take this course!

I know that this course, or experience, is different for everyone. What one individual gets out of this course is different from everyone else, our goals are also very different, and whether you reach those goals depends on a few factors: The amount of mental luggage (aka cement) when joining this course is, perhaps, one – our willingness to be brutally honest with ourselves and stop blaming others is certainly another. Having said that – remember that YOU are perfect the way you are at your point in your own journey! Perfectly perfect, perhaps not complete. Be kind to yourself. Love yourself for who you are and where you are right now.

I know that I have a long journey ahead of me still before I truly am, 100 % of the time, the person I intend to become. But I also know that I CAN be that person when I continue to be persistent with a clear ideal as my goal. Without a goal, how else will I know which path to choose when I come to a fork in the road? Every single choice I make is at a fork in the road. Whether it’s a choice in what I think, feel, say, or do – it is nothing more than a choice between one path or the other. I can choose the path that leads to my ideal goal, or I can choose to take a detour down a different path…. It is always a choice.

I do not ALWAYS choose the path that leads to my ideal goal, but I am getting better at it. When my first year at the Master Key Experience ended in March 2020, I kept doing the mental exerises every single day, and I still do, because I know first hand that they WORK. One step at a time, one minor change at a time, the compounding effect will get me where I want to be – and to WHO I want to be.

Why do you think Mark & Davene, who have been teaching this course for a decade, still do the very same exercises they teach their students?

“For when an act becomes easy through constant repetition it becomes a pleasure to perform, and if it is a pleasure to perform it is man’s nature to perform it often. When I perform it often, it becomes a habit and I become its slave and since it is a good habit, this is my will.” (from Scroll I, The Greatest Salesman in the World)

The mental exercises we learn is this course can be compared to building muscles – once you have’em, you can’t stop exercising and expect the muscles to stay strong, let alone expect them to grow…

So I keep going to the gym. The mind gym, that is. It’s not “just exercises” anymore- it’s a way of life. It’s a way of being. Just like ALL habits are, good and bad alike. Choose good habits and the bad ones vanish. It’s that simple. Persistent Practise Prouduces Perfect Presentations.

Here are some other fine folks who keep going to the mind gym:

Ian: https://ianmacolive.wordpress.com/blog
Vi: https://masterkey803017729.wordpress.com/blog
Breege: https://happytohelpyougrow.com
Laura: https://livingtoyourownbeat.com/blog
Dan: https://thedanwardexperience.com/blog
Angelica: https://angelicabudarick.wordpress.com
Kevin: https://kevinmasterkey.wordpress.com/blog
Karin: https://karinmyjourney.wordpress.com/blog
Stacy: https://stayban.wordpress.com
Urd: https://thepowerrace.wordpress.com/blog
Melina: https://minaskreativa.blogspot.com/p/my-master-key-experience.html

Stay tuned for more unusual posts.

I wish you a wonder-fun day 🙂

Love from Bibi (MKE Guide)

W1 A – Reblogging: Resistance

Hey, Master Key Experience friends! Check out this fantastic blog post by one of our new members. Stacy had some resistance before joining the course but asked herself, “If not, when?” – such a timely question!

She writes:

“This is the beginning of a journey. My journey. It started with a LOT of resistance.

A very good friend of mine took a class a year ago and had told me about it, but I had no interest in it for myself. She shared a few things about it over the course of the year, and she was extremely excited about it. I watched and enjoyed her excitement, but it still wasn’t for me. I also watched her transform and blossom. I still wasn’t convinced.

A new session of the class was about to begin, and my friend wanted me to consider signing up. My first reaction was still “Nah, it’s not for me”. I had no intention of taking the course. But, it was always in the back of my mind. “What if?” What if I could finally figure out what I wanted to do with my life? What if I finally find that thing I feel like I’m missing to finally figure out the meaning of life? What if my life could be better than it’s ever been?

After struggling with all those What If thoughts for a few weeks, I decided to go for it. I did the initial sign up, but had to fill out an application. There were all kinds of things in that application that caused me to hit the brakes hard. I was okay with most of it, but there were a couple things on that application that made me say “Oh, hell no!”. This blog was one of them. As you can see, I got over that hurdle also. It didn’t come easy or quickly. That question, “What If?” was still there, and it’s what pushed me forward. I had one more hurdle, another “hell no” from me, and after another struggle, it came down to this: If not now, when? I’m 55 years old. I have no idea what I want to do with my life. I work for an amazing company, but it doesn’t feel like the right fit. I feel like there is something else I was meant to do. I just don’t know what it is. How long am I going to wait to figure it out? I’m not getting any younger. Time’s running out. If not now, when? How much more time am I going to waste?

The first class of the Master Key Experience starts tomorrow. After about 10 days of putting in my application, there is no longer any resistance. I can’t expect things to change if I keep doing the same thing. I can’t move forward if I stay where I am. It’s time to take a chance and move forward. I’m excited about the possibilities. Maybe I will find my true purpose on this earth, maybe it will be associated with my hobby, maybe it will be working with teens, or maybe I will learn something that will show me I really do fit in the job I have now. Who knows, but I’m excited to find out.”

Follow Stacy’s MKE blog here: https://stayban.wordpress.com

Stay tuned for more unusual posts.

I wish you a wonder-fun day 🙂

Love fom Bibi

My Secret to Success

My secret to personal success is really no secret at all.  Ask anyone who has achieved their goals, and they’ll tell you the same thing. Best of all? – Anyone can do it. It’s really this simple:

lion green eyes

If you can’t be bothered reading this rather lengthy and personal post, just click to see the online course that changed everything for me!

I said it’s simple, but perhaps not easy. – Many people do not even know what they want! I know what that’s like. In the past, I knew what I didn’t want, but I had no clear goals – I just wanted to avoid pain. I thought a lot about all the things I didn’t want, such as “I don’t want to be sick, I don’t want to be unhappy, anxious, feel worthless….”, and so on.

And it worked! I did get more of what I focused on! So I got sicker, more depressed, more worried, and my confidence had hit rock bottom.

In September 2019, I joined an online-course of six months and since then my focus has been laser-sharp on the outcome I want. Because I have focused on the positive outcome, I can check quite a few boxes already!

Before I show you my list of personal achievements so far, I want to give you an idea of where I was at when I joined this life-altering course in September. The reason I want to tell you is that my story goes to show that what I have learned really works. You see, before I joined the course I had so much anxiety that I didn’t even dare to be alone. I had been on heavy meds for years (for bipolar disorder since 1994 and painkillers since 2005 due to a spinal deformity). I had very little energy and had to sleep for at least two hours during the day, every single day since 2010. I also struggled with memory loss and eventually ended up on disability pension. For the past 4 years, I couldn’t walk more than 10-15 meters without crutches. Sometimes I used a wheelchair to get around. I was in debt, had no confidence that I’d ever work again, I was seriously worried about my future. But let’s not dwell on the past! I have a brand new life, and it keeps getting better!

In no particular order, EXCEPT the first one – which was vital to achieving the rest, here’s what I have achieved since September 2019. And this is only the beginning ……

  • I’m happy – every day!
  • I’ve found my life purpose.
  • I know how to reach my goals.
  • I’ve lost weight.
  • Quit smoking.
  • Painfree spine.
  • Quit taking meds and painkillers *
  • I can walk 100 times further!!
  • And I dance every day 🙂 
  • I feel confident.
  • Made friends, found my tribe.
  • Spiritual awakening.

* I want to stress that I did wean off the anti bipolar meds with support of my physician and that I did not quit overnight. The side effects to quitting cold turkey can be quite severe. I ticked all the boxes with symptoms before, but I no longer have those ups (mania) and downs (depressions). I feel perfectly “normal” (for lack of a better word) and that’s all that matters to me 🙂

Would none of the achievements above have happened anyway without me taking the online course? Well, without it I seriously doubt that I would have gotten anywhere – I’d most likely continue attracting all the things I did not want, as before.

More than anything, I know that I have found the real key to personal success. I have found my true purpose (to write inspirational books to help others) and I keep doing the work that I know brings out the results I want, all in due time. I know I tend to be impatient; I want results “yesterday” … but I also know that a relaxed mind and a positive mental attitude, backed up by a burning desire will get me there. I’ve come so far already, and I am persistent! (Which in itself is pretty huge for a former procrastinator and worrywart …..)

If you want to improve one or more areas of your life, check this out: tinyurl.com/HeroCourse

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I wish you a wonder-fun day 🙂

Love from Bibi

Take Charge of Your Time!

Where do you see yourself in 6 months from now? What, if anything, are you doing to make sure you are in a better place than you are right now?

If you don’t have the time to do it right, when will you have the time to do it over?

The #1 excuse people use for not improving their lives is that they don’t have the time. Guess what? Time is going to pass anyway, whether you DO something to improve your life or not.

There are basically two types of people in the world.

Type 1: People who are always willing to learn, grow and improve themselves.
Type 2: Those who would rather stay put where they are. Even if they’re miserable, at least it feels safe (because it’s familiar).

If you prefer to spend the next six months watching time pass by, this course is not for you: tinyurl.com/HeroCourse
This course is for people who want to improve their lives. It’s NOT for sissies. Doing this course is going to take AT LEAST one hour of your prescious time, each day for 26 weeks (starting Sept. 27th, 2020).

The course is scholarship based with limited spots.

Before I joined this course last fall, I was a nervous wreck. Totally worn out from struggling with anxiety, panic attacks, and depressions, I didn’t think I had the energy to work on myself for the Nth time…. I seriously doubted that I was even “fixable”, and I didn’t think I was ready to give it a shot to find out. Luckily, it turned out that I was wrong. I was ready. I was RIPE!

And now, one year later? At age 53, I have finally discovered my inner strength and my own value. I am happy – not just now and then, but as a natural “mood default”. But hey, I’m human – I have ALL the emotions like anyone else, the difference for me – compared to how I was before – is that I don’t stay down/upset/angry/hurt and what have you, and I no longer dwell on the past for hours on end, nor do I worry myself sick about the future. If I fall, and I do, I get back up. I feel a lot more confident, and I know what my purpose is and what my passions are. And – I have found my tribe with kind and compassionate people, and made friends with such wonderful and supportive individuals from many countries.

Full disclosure: After having done the 6 months course as a regular student, I was invited to train with the staff to become a Certified Guide for new students… and I have just passed my exam with flying colours! Hence, I am affiliated with this course. It’s the best thing I have ever done for myself, and now I want to help others who are willing to put in the effort. I don’t charge anyone to be their guide – it’s just something I do because I really want to help others.

You’ll never have to feel lonesome in this class. You get hands-on help from a Certified Guide and you’ll meet people like yourself who are curious, willing to grow and improve.

Find out what it’s all about: tinyurl.com/HeroCourse

Be a hero in YOUR life! You can do this.

This course is only taught once a year. It’s scholarship based with limited spots. Giddy up!

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I wish you a wonder-fun day 🙂

Love from Bibi

I Can Smell My Book!

Is one of your goals to write a book and have it published? Hey, me too!

One of the ways to breathe life into our dreams and goals is to visualize them as if they have already occurred.

Did you know that more than 95 % of every single choice we make is controlled by the subconscious mind? So much fo “free will”, huh? BUT – you can train your subconscious so it makes the choices you want.

That’s how I stopped procrastinating, for example. I taught my subcounscious that I DO the things I say I will do. I have repeated the following affirmation at least 15 times, three times a day for the past year: “Do it NOW!” And guess what? My subconscious mind won’t let me put things off. I just DO it, and I do it right away.

When I see myself as already having accomplished my goals and my dreams, that also sends a strong message to my subconscious mind. Let me show you how I use this for my writing process.

I facilitate this process and add vitality to my goals by using the five human senses: Visual (seeing), Auditive (hearing), Tactile (touch), Olfactory (smell), and Gustatory (taste). 

My goal is to have my novel published by May 2023.

Let’s see how many senses I can add to that goal:

How does the book smell? Well, if you love reading – that’s an easy question! Before I start reading a book, I love flipping through the pages to smell it first.

How do I see the book, visually? I visualize the physical book, its cover, its design, and I enjoy seeing myself flip through the individual pages. 

How does my goal sound? I love hearing the sound of the pages flip by as I leaf through my book! 

How can I physically touch this goal? That’s easy!  I often “see” with my fingers, I touch everything! I see myself noticing the feel of the pages as I browse through my book. I notice the smooth feel of the cover as I run my fingers across it.

Lastly, taste. How can I taste a book? Well, I’ve been known to taste worse!  (Icelandic fermented shark? Worst taste ever!!) Instead of eating my book or its pages, I can add whatever taste I want to my book experience! For example, I can see myself eating an orange as I flip through those magnificent pages.

Using the five senses in this way, when I flip through the pages of a book, it’s not just “a book.” it’s MY book! And I see it as published!  Once your subconscious gets the idea that the book has been published, it starts making choices for me to make it happen. That’s how the human mind works. Fascinating, isn’t it!?

To bring even more vitality to this goal, I’ve designed a book cover with my book title on the front and my name right under my title. I’ve printed it out and attached my new “book cover” to a brand new book. 

Now I can SEE my published book! 

I can pick it up and TOUCH it! 

I can HEAR the pages flip as I turn them! 

I can eat an orange while I’m doing this and associate this yummy TASTE with my book! 

And yes, I can SMELL it! 

I can smell my dream!

And it’s magical!

Thanks for reading. Now, go bring your own dreams to life using all your senses.
Teach your subconscious what you really want. It is quite magical.

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I wish you a wonder-fun day 🙂

Love from Bibi