What we Focus on Grows.
The choice is yours. What do you choose to focus on?
Courage Beats the Crap out of Fear
We all know that if you fear an activity, whethyer it’s flying or speaking in public, it takes courage to do it anyway – in spite of fear.
What many people do, myself included, is to focus on the very thing they fear. But if you think about this for a second – how on earth could concentrating on fear create any courage? What’s even worse is when you end up focusing on the fear itself. What we focus on grows, remember?
What would Benjamin do?
Back in January 2019, I tried the so-called ‘Franklin Makeover’ for the first time. In short, you choose a virtue you want more of and focus on it for a whole week. You observe the virtue in others as well as in yourself, and make a note of it every time you see a sign of it. What happens next is almost like magic…
I had chosen ‘courage’ as my virtue…. A couple of days into my ‘courage week’, I started to wonder if it was my former anxious self who had chosen ‘courage’…. I used to need a lot of courage just to get through a normal day.
I realized that I couldn’t even remember the last time I had any signs of anxiety. It had been several months since I needed courage just to leave the house!
And that’s great! Overcoming anxiety is HUGE!!
Now that my new norm was to be living freely without anxiety, I was able to see that life had so much more to offer than just leaving the house without getting a panic attack…
So, if I no longer was afraid of doing “normal”, everyday things – what did I need courage for?
Take Your Pick!
I needed courage to believe in myself and the choices I made.
Heck, I needed courage to make any important decisions of my own…
Once I had, I needed courage to let people know.
I needed courage to stand up for myself.
Maybe you need courage to go after a new job, move to a new place, or to finally write that bestseller book you’ve been talking about!
What do YOU need courage to do? I dare you to be courageous and share in the comments below! 🙂
An Unusual Technique that Works
In order to find many examples of ‘courage’ to focus on for a week, I used a technique that was first described in ‘The Master Key System’, published by Charles Haanel in 1912. The point of his technique (often referred to as the Battleship Exercise) is to visualize something material and trace it back to its origin to find the cause – and we find that it always started with an idea, as a thought.
Since my goal was to observe as much courage as possible during that week, I would look at any item around me – it being a coffee cup, a throw pillow, or a car on the street. I used an “inverse version” of Hansel’s technique, and traced that item through all the steps necessary from idea to finished product, thinking about the courage it took the inventor or designer to see their idea through. That takes courage!
Hot Tip: This inverted ‘Battleship Exercise’ works for almost any virtue. Just imagine what it takes of virtues such as creativity, persistence, decisiveness, cooperation, being well organized, just to name a few, to go from idea to finished product!
The more I focused on courage, the more courage I found myself having. One week of focusing on courage also had ripple effects into the weeks ahead. What we focus on does grow.
I give myself permission to be courageous! ‘Cos, you see, deep down…
This week, I want to link to two courageous bloggers:
Stay tuned for more unusual posts.