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- Are you often tired, sad or even depressed?
- Do you ever worry about your future?
- Are you someone who cares about others and their wellbeing, but often downplay your own needs and wants?
- Do you daydream of a better life, but not sure how to make it happen?
I can relate to ALL of the above. This was my story, and I felt like a big mess.
My name is Bibi Lindahl, I’m a 54 year old writer and illustrator from Norway, and I am passionate about helping others who struggle emotionally because I know too well what that’s like.
If you have read this far, I think you and I have another thing in common: Deep down you have always known that life has more to offer, and you try to stay optimistic even if you’ve been let down over and over again.
I’m here to reassure you that there IS hope, and that you CAN create a better life for yourself. (Honestly, if I could do it – anyone can!)
Everything Minus One
Perhaps you have tried “everything” before. Everything except a solution that worked? I had read a “gazillion” self-help books, gone to seminars, and been in years and years of therapy trying to feel better. I was even on medication for over two decades, only to numb ALL my feelings, not just the negative ones. The meds didn’t do anything to fix the root of my emotional struggle.
The Rotten Root
And what is the root of emotional struggle? It basically stems from one crucial thing: our limiting beliefs.
You might think you’re not good enough. You might think you’re not worthy. The result of these limiting beliefs is low self-esteem and lack of confidence, which leads to fear. For many of us, that fear is so overwhelming that it results in anxiety and depressions.
What if I told you…
What if I told you that you ARE good enough? You are NOT broken, and you DO have what it takes within you – hidden underneath layers of bad habits and degenerating thoughts and feelings that have piled up over the years.
But you do know, don’t you, that you are not your behaviour? Behaviour is just the surface of a human being, just like a symptom is not the root.
What Makes You Happy?
I still remember that day when someone asked me, “What makes you happy and why don’t you do it more often?”. It was such a shocking moment for me when I realized that I couldn’t think of one single thing…. I had no idea what made me happy!
When your mind is so full of worry and stress, nothing really makes you happy. You might get a nice distraction from your negative thoughts by going somewhere nice or watch a fun movie. Some feel a moment of happiness when they buy new clothes or a fancy gadget, but the happiness never lasts.
Your quality of life is measured by how you FEEL. If you depend on other people and circumstances to make you happy, you’ll spend the rest of your life trying to change other people and control the world around you. The irony is that the only thing we can control is our own mind – once we learn how.
How I Changed Mine
I have learned how the mind works, how thoughts and feelings combined creates our beliefs AND how to implement that knowledge to my own mind’s advantage.
With simple, daily mind-exercises I overcame the crippling anxiety and depressions that had stopped me from living a fulfilling life.
I’m writing a book about these things so I can help others. Read more here.